《垃圾場長大的自學人生》 - 塔拉·韋斯托弗

幾年前,我在比爾蓋茨(Bill Gates)博客gatesnotes首次接觸到塔拉·韋斯托弗的回憶錄《垃圾場長大的自學人生》(原書名《Educated》)。這本書講述作者從愛達荷州一個嚴格且與世隔絕的摩門教生存主義家庭成長,父親平時以拆廢鐵維生,母親則是一名家庭主婦及非法助產士。

這本書探討了堅靭不拔、自我發現、家庭忠誠以及教育的變革能力,是一本發人深省的讀物。韋斯托弗的故事是自學的典範。她在17歲時才開始以自修全力準備大學入學考試,最終獲得劍橋大學博士學位,並曾任哈佛大學訪問學者。這提醒我們,教育不應僅著眼於孩童時期的成績,而應注重培養孩子持續學習的動力與好奇心,讓他們成為終身學習者。

韋斯托弗的家庭極度自給自足,甚至在面對嚴重疾病和生命危機時,也拒絕尋求現代醫療協助。這種極端的自我依賴引發我們對健康照護的反思:研究指出,醫學界對人體的認知有許多仍未完全了解。因此,學會傾聽身體的訊號、培養自我保健的能力,對每個人來說都是至關重要。

家庭是我們出生時無法選擇的環境,也是塑造我們生命的重要根基。韋斯托弗在書中不斷試圖理解她的家庭,因為年青時身體、精神及言語上受到虐待,對父親和家庭充滿憤怒。但她仍將所有無論好壞的經歷視為一種「教育」,一種讓她成長的養分。

韋斯托弗的經歷與比爾·蓋茨對自我學習重要性的看法不謀而合。蓋茨本人雖是輟學生,卻是熱衷閱讀與終身學習的典範,韋斯托弗的故事正是這種自我驅動學習的最佳寫照。

The Importance of Being Earnest by Oscar Wilde

I recommend this book because it is one of the funniest and most delightful social satires that I’ve read.  No other plays so colorfully pokes fun at Victorian high society. I read it when I was in high school when we had to analyze the play but on re-reading it, I find it no less hilarious.  It is no wonder that The Importance of Being Earnest is considered to be Oscar Wilde’s timeless classic.  The playwright’s trademark sardonic wit permeates every part of the play – so much so that almost every line of the play is quotable. 

One interesting aspect of this play is hinted by the subtitle: “A Trivial Comedy for Serious People”.  The subject matters that the play touched upon are all important: love and marriage, divorce and illegitimacy, education, class distinctions, the real versus the ideal, and death.  But all these “serious” topics are treated by the play’s characters with trivial, off-hand, and insouciant remarks.  A few examples should suffice:

  • On Class: “Really, if the lower orders don’t set us a good example, what on earth is the use of them?”

  • On Education: “I do not approve of anything that tampers with natural ignorance. Ignorance is like a delicate exotic fruit; touch it and the bloom is gone. The whole theory of modern education is radically unsound. Fortunately in England, at any rate, education produces no effect whatsoever. If it did, it would prove a serious danger to the upper classes, and probably lead to acts of violence in Grosvenor Square.”

  • On Death: “To lose one parent, Mr. Worthing, may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness.”

  • On Married Life: “No married man is ever attractive except to his wife. And often, I’ve been told, not even to her.”

When asked if there is a philosophy behind this play, Wilde glibly replies (with characteristic irony): “We should treat all the trivial things of life seriously, and all the serious things of life with sincere and studied triviality.”  It is then no wonder that “serious” critics and playwrights of the time (like George Bernard Shaw) found this play to be devoid of any merits.  But all seriousness aside, The Importance of Being Earnest is just plain funny stuff – a comedic masterpiece.  The plot of the play is too intricate to summarize even in brief – the four main lovers (Jack Worthing, Algernon Moncrieff, Cecily Cardew, Gwendolen Fairfax) are sometimes partners, sometimes competitors, and at all times trying to hide something from each other.  While no one is in name or in fact, Earnest, everyone either pretends to be or pursues this ideal.  Wilde managed to keep this delightful irony to the very end of the play – even the very last line of the play when Jack Worthing proclaimed to his Aunt Augusta: “I’ve realized for the first time in my life the Importance of Being Earnest” is not an earnest statement.

Bottom line: If you want a real comedy to brighten your day, forget about a sitcom or a funny movie which can often be juvenile, crass, tasteless, and/or too dependent on physical humor – do yourself a favor instead and read The Importance of Being Earnest. You’ll thank me for it, earnestly!